Tuesday, February 27, 2024

 

My Retirement Years - Why Hate?

Recently a “I hate that person” Facebook posting within my Facebook community creates 
quite a stir.  A famous young singer is disliked by one of my Facebook friends.  His harsh comments made toward her, especially using the word “hate” surprises me.   

Hate is a strong word; to hate someone, one must have a strong feeling towards that person.  Family members do not get along, co-workers disagree on projects, husband and wife have heated quarrels, all can create a very unpleasant experience and eventually end up hating each other, that I can understand.  Hating a stranger whom you never meet, never have a relationship, and never even exchange a conversation, I question from where that hatred comes?  There is old Chinese saying, “hate is the oppositive of love, someone you ended up in hating must be someone you once loved so deeply”. 

Nowadays, you can read so much criticism towards Prince Harry and his wife Meghan Markle.  Many people HATE the couple.  The volume of dreadful postings trashing them on the internet startles me.  Some people even devote their entire career to write assaulting messages about the couple!  I am not a fan of Prince Harry and his wife. I may be bothered by their ignorance and disrespectful of the ancient British royal cultures and rules that were established and formed for reasons that are beyond their comprehension, but I certainly do not hate them!   Their choice of living is none of my concerns.  Afterall, why should we get upset over someone whom you are not related to, don’t care about or love?     As for my Facebook friend, I think what he really wanted to say was: he dislikes that person.  The word “hate” is not a true reflection of his actual emotion.  To dislike someone is probable.  It simply means disagreeing with them on certain issues, which is totally acceptable.

When we become intensely critical of a stranger, unconsciously, a negative mental and physical emotion inside you is ignited.    

“Don’t hate anyone for it kills your happiness.”

We should focus on something is more productive, someone means something to you.  How a stranger chooses to live his/her life is really nobody’s business.

 

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Beautifully put!